Sunday, June 7, 2009

An ode to all ex'es

Somewhere along the way of getting over you,I forgot to get over you!
How weird, not to mention such a major oversight.I guess I was too busy thinking about the future(and sometimes the past) and it just slipped my mind.
I mean of course break-ups are difficult and they take time. I believe as we get older we should be mature and responsible about them,you know,take some time to grieve and deal with it all. Maybe have a period of reflection and accept the part we played in it. Not just turn around and dive into a new relationship with the next person we meet. Oh wait,thats what you did. Oh well,Im sure you had a plan,Im sure that its worked out for you in the long run. No? Shame.

I,however just think its better to sort through the issues on your own before you arrive at your next relationship with a huge carrier van of baggage.
Also wouldnt it be nice to start again with someone new and not repeat the same mistakes?
No? You dont think so? Well obviously not,the way you carrying on.
Oh and sometimes the mind plays such awful tricks,trying to convince me that you were the best thing to ever happen to me,maybe even trying to block out some of the awful things you did or said, the mind sure is sneaky. Sometimes it even makes me think of the future with you in it. Silly,trying to convince me that you were The One.
And all this time I've been to busy to take my mind asaide and have a little chat with her and tell her to shut-up!!!!
The bitch has had free reign over me, blending together fact and fiction and creating a relationship in my head that was so not the one we had in reality.
Lucky you though,you obviously had no issues with your conscience or mind( assuming you have either of them) you were able to just turn around and carry on.
Even when I offered the olive branch of friendship you took it in two minds. I tried to build the bridge that you actually should have been building,but no still not going to work. Its so funny the way you can just switch on and off. I mean it must come in real handy for some things. I wonder what goes on in your head, do you ever worry about yourself? Oh I am making myself laugh now,of course you dont.

How stupid of me not to have seen it in the begining anyway.I mean lets be honest you were dating me before you even broke up with your long term girlfriend. Ben Harper warned me that the end is always in the begining. If only I wasnt so blinded by love,never mind I have taken my blindfold off now. I have taken all this time to work through everything,I wonder if you ever stop to think how your actions affected me? No I guess not,that would mean you having to put someone before yourself. So, all this time I thought I was still getting over you that I missed the day that it actually happened. Hearing these stories about you,I cant believe its the same person. Well I guess you not. I think I must have created a better version of you in my head,thats the only explanation I can think of. The alternative being that I knew you were like this all along and stayed with you anyway.Its just to sad.
Not that you'll lose any sleep over it mind you. If anything you'll have your head stuck so far into the sand and playing your favourite game of avoidence that you'll carry on having a huge party for years to come never really thinking about those along the way(least of all yourself)
Well, at least I FINALLY get it! I finally understand that Im better than that! How long it took to me to realise,silly silly me! Oh I really must start to pay more attention to myself,who knows what else I'll miss!!!!!

2 comments:

  1. Katie, how sucky are exes!
    But yes, start paying more attention to yourself!

    Love ya cuz.
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  2. That is really good post, love the way you have narrated it here. Need to bookmark your blog to read more such posts. Thanks for sharing it with us

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